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What Makes Couples Marriage Counseling in MI Work When Partners Feel Stuck?
Marriage problems rarely improve when two people keep trying to win the same argument. The work begins when the therapist protects the relationship itself and actively manages the conversation with structure and neutrality. In my experience, couple’s marriage counseling in MI works best when I stop sorting out who is right and start identifying the pattern that keeps both of you locked in the same conflict. The first shift is not dramatic. It is steadiness. The conversation becomes guided instead of chaotic. Why Do Couples Feel Stuck Even When They
My monthly newsletter, “Paying Attention,” was launched in April, 2007. Each one contains thoughts and ideas that occur in the general areas of psychology, culture, or other matters that come from the interface between my work and the rest of the world. They may also contain news and information about myself, and new areas of my work, study and research.
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What Makes Couples Marriage Counseling in MI Work When Partners Feel Stuck?
Marriage problems rarely improve when two people keep trying to win the same argument. The work begins when the therapist protects the relationship itself and
The Space In-Between
This recently came to my awareness when I realized that frequently in Christian liturgical language, God is named as “Maker of heaven and earth.1” Initially
Calling My Name
What’s going on when someone speaks your name? Sometimes I’ll ask a client about their name. “Where does it come from?” The question itself assumes
Breaking Bread
Backstory I have a vivid memory of the occasion when I first fell in love with what I’ve ever since called “real bread.” It was
An Antidote to Despair
Hope At the turn of the year, I heard many comments from friends and clients, that we have just come through a most difficult year
The Medicine Inside
Backstory You will note from the date at the end of this December Newsletter, that I am very late to write for this month. I
Run toward the Roar
There’s a story that comes out of Africa – that I’ve heard told a number of times – which is often the case with important
The Bells of Nuremberg
Backstory When preparing my August Newsletter, recalling as a 27 year old foreign exchange Summer in Nuremberg (southern Germany) a long forgotten memory emerged, that
Mosquitoes and Telemarketers
On the Church Sign in front of St. Jude’s Church in Fenton, our Priest-in-Charge added a few months ago, “Wish Noah had Swatted Those 2
Otto Pitzke’s Scar
Backstory In the Summer of 1958, before my Senior Year in high school, I had the privilege of being chosen as a Summer exchange student
A New Way to Pray – Boldly
OK, for this one I’m putting on my semi-religious/spiritual writer’s hat. First, some backstory. My father was a Methodist minister. My mother the daughter of
A “Third Thing”
This concept has been bouncing around in my head for a number of years, with no memory where it came from. I believe it was